Why 'you'll never be ready' is simply not true

Why 'you'll never be ready' is simply not true

I remember when I first learned to ride a bike. I didn't really learn. I simply got on the bike with no one around, rode down the hill and... crashed into the curb.

There was no glory of getting it right the first time.

I fell off the bike and onto the grass, thankfully. There were scrapes, I think. I can't remember the rest all that well. I don't think I told anyone because I think I'd been told not to do it. I didn't care. I wanted to be like my big brothers who rode and skateboarded and did all that fun stuff. What I do remember is that I got back on and tried again and again until I could ride.

I did that with so many new things as a kid. I did things without fear, even after I really hurt myself falling off a bike (I have an impressive scar to prove it). Despite the fall I still ride a bike now. But if I'd fallen as an adult... maybe not.

I believe we stop taking risks more from what we're taught rather than our own nature. 

As children we inherently have a curious and inquisitive nature. Along the way we lose that curiosity. From being told not to, to learning about fear from others. We're told, 'don't', 'be careful', 'stop or you'll hurt yourself', 'don't hurt yourself'. And we internalise all of these words and turn them into fear... or rebellion. We learn to play small in the guise of staying safe. 

It's not our parents or even our teachers fault. They want to protect us so it is instinctual for them to teach us what they know. They may have learned that from their parents or from their own experiences as children and so they naturally pass on these lessons to us.

Slowly though this can make us be fearful of things we may never have been fearful of. We stop being curious and inquisitive. 

Of course there are things we need to be protected from like running across a road, or eating glass, or tumbling down stairs. But generally we become richer adults when we learn the lessons ourselves. 

We're also taught a very clear path: to go to university, get a job, get married, buy a house, work until we retire and then enjoy life. It's not a bad path. It gives structure, predictability and direction. It may be a safer and potentially less stressful (debatable) path than walking your own. It can also be restrictive and less creative.

Or is it?

I don't believe it's the path you choose; it's the way you see the path.

One of the most powerful things I've learned is that nothing has meaning than the meaning we give it. This applies so much to the words we use and the meanings we give our words. It also applies to moments.

We truly can decide at any given moment what that moment is going to mean.

For example, if someone doesn't call you back, is it because they don't like you or is it because they're caught up in their life or they're going through a difficult time and have forgotten to call?

We can choose what it means by putting the right language around our thoughts. We can choose whether we will react to a situation or not, put ourselves down or assume the worse.

Choosing the meaning of things has changed my life. 

This choice also goes with getting started as a writer... a creative... an entrepreneur... a new habit... or new path. We can decide we are ready and that we will figure it out at any time.

Being ready is a decision.

It is incredibly powerful when you make a decision and commit to it. When you decide you are ready, you are ready. It can be that simple and that empowering. More so than saying you'll never be ready. It is liberating to know that you have a choice, yes?

And you do. That choice is available to you always.

You are ready when you say you are.

You are ready.


Owning your voice in life (it's never about finding it).

Owning your voice in life (it's never about finding it).

Love the skin you're in.

Love the skin you're in.